Transforming Our Bodies, With Love

Ohhhh … our society has the topic of “weight loss” so messed up. ? I was shamed starting in childhood, and infuriatingly I also experienced “thin privilege” when I changed my body size in my 50s. Our sedentary lifestyle and processed food environment make it the default to carry levels of body fat that affect our health, and then our culture shames us for it. ?  Then our focus is on getting “thin”  (mine was!) and we neglect the all-important reserves of muscle which we need to stay active and energetic, not achy, and do all the things we enjoy. If you’re looking to shift your body composition (especially decreasing unhealthful abdominal fat), I’m here for you  with both my training and personal experience, and ready to face and address this together. We’ll take a radically new approach that is built on fiercely loving and supporting ourselves and our always-imperfect bodies (it’s ok if that’s hard at first!) and finding ways to care for our physical selves in a more authentically human way, in spite of the distortions of our culture and environment. 

It’s not your fault if you carry extra body fat! What happened during the past few decades, as the obesity epidemic arose? People’s willpower didn’t change, but our food environment did. There’s so much blaming and shaming of individuals, but I think it’s more appropriate to blame processed foods full of sugar, white flour and cheap vegetable oils. Moving away from them and substituting real foods from nature can not only decrease abdominal body fat and help us move with more ease, but also reduce inflammation, help prevent cancer and chronic diseases, and improve our blood tests. 

Of course, it isn’t easy to change our lifestyles when processed food is cheap and abundant (both “food deserts” and “food swamps” are a problem!). Our genetics and past experiences can also make this harder. But increasing our physical movement, adding strength training, improving our sleep and managing stress can help ease the way as we feel better and better in our bodies. And there are many real-food options for people on limited budgets or those who avoid animal foods. It takes some work and planning, but I’m eager to work with you to get you feeling better from day one. 

What to Expect

One on One Coaching Calls

  • Your first call is a totally free consultation and “chemistry” session to see if we are a good fit. It’s real coaching where we look with kindness at your situation and the three most impactful steps you are able and willing to take next. After that I’ll send you a proposal about how we might work together, with no pressure or obligation. Book your appointment here
  • I usually meet with my coaching clients for 45 minutes each week on Zoom, but this can be set up differently to suit your needs.
  • I support you in identifying what you truly want for yourself, the barriers you face (including the internal resistance we all have!), and what will work best for you as a unique individual.
  • Each week we look with love and kindness at your progress and tweak your plan to make it achievable, sustainable and supportive of your physical and emotional well-being. 
  • You schedule our sessions on my calendar at your convenience and can reschedule as necessary. 
  • It’s a safe and confidential space, where you can talk about anything and be met with understanding and unconditional kindness. 

Extra Support and Resources

  • I’ll help you cut through the tangled Web (ha ha) of health information and identify apps, classes, eating plans or anything else that will truly help you in your health journey without straining your budget or becoming another complication you don’t need. 
  • I’ll create materials for you if helpful, such as guided meditations, recorded affirmations, or workout plans.
  • I’m fully independent and not trying to sell you any supplements, diet plans or commercial programs. I’ll never do that!
  • If I don’t offer a service, I’ll help you find a trusted colleague or local provider who does. 
  • I can confer with your health care provider or team about your needs and progress if desired.

FAQ

Are you going to tell me what to do to get healthier?

Some clients, frustrated by a lack of progress, come to me saying “Just tell me what to do, and I’ll do it!” (If that’s what you truly want, I’m here for you!) But in truth, you are the expert on your own body and your own needs, and my job is to bring out your internal wisdom, help you identify and overcome what is holding you back, and support you with accountability, encouragement and some strategizing. You have plenty of health information and know your own body, your lifestyle, and the habits you want to change. I’m here to get you unstuck and moving forward on your unique and exciting health journey.

Is coaching expensive? Will you try to sell me a deluxe VIP package?

I work from home with low overhead (except my two wonderful part-time assistants) and pass the savings along to you. There’s actually evidence that more expensive coaching packages can produce better results because the client is more invested and committed to the program. But it’s important to me to be accessible and affordable, and to provide huge value to your life for your investment.  (Some would say it’s priceless to turn our health around!)

Can I work with you if I'm on a weight loss medication?

Yes! I’ll help you optimize your eating plan and add strength training so you don’t lose muscle (a common and unwanted side effect!) as you reduce body fat. I’m happy to coordinate with your medical provider if desired to keep your program safe and healthy.

What if I miss appointments, have questions between meetings or am having difficulties?

I’m here for you! Especially at the beginning, sometimes a week is too long without checking in. You can always reach out via email or WhatsApp, and I’ll answer your questions or help you navigate whatever tricky situation you’re facing. We can also have your next session earlier if you’d like to talk by phone or on Zoom. This is about your well-being and your success! 

I’ve fortunately never had a client stop because she was unhappy with our work together, but I know this could happen someday. I’ll never require anyone to finish out an unwanted term with me; I’ll happily refund the remaining sessions. The same goes if your life changes and you make other plans for your health journey.

What happens most often is that clients get busy and start missing appointments. In that case, I keep your plan active and check in with you. Health coaching clients come to me because they feel that they can use some accountability, so we might work together to schedule future appointments and build in some consequences (chosen by you) for missing them. 

Another common experience is that the client is making such good progress that she doesn’t need to check in weekly anymore. In that case, we typically shift to twice a month or even once a month, stretching out the same number of sessions for a longer period. For some clients, a 12-week program has turned into six months, but at the end they are truly ready to “fly” on their own, feeling great and fully committed to their new, healthier habits. 

Why do you do this work?

I experienced for myself what it’s like to turn my health around at midlife. I felt the transformative power of real food, physical movement we love, fun and play. I’ve learned that it is (sometimes) possible to lose fat and keep it off; to improve our balance and posture; to get stronger at literally any age; and to feel better in our bodies than we did ten years ago.

I’m passionate about supporting and encouraging others in finding their own path to more vibrant health and well-being, because I think it’s good for individuals and good for the world as a whole –we can do more of what we need, want and love to do, and be more authentically ourselves when we have more energy, feel better and have a longer healthspan (as opposed to just lifespan).

The “weight loss” field is sadly full of misleading and unhelpful messages. For one thing, losing “weight” can mean losing muscle, which is not what we want at all. Even worse, people are pushed into extreme, unsustainable plans which lead to rebound after they are inevitably stopped. And worst of all, some messages reinforce the shame and stigma our society places on extra body fat.

I have felt that shame and stigma both from myself and from others, and I never want to contribute to it. I know that even working in this field and helping people reduce fat can give an appearance of judgment. But I have learned to release judgment about myself and others, and I know that now being thin I am exactly the same flawed person as before 🙂  The truth is, though, that excess fat has health consequences (as do MANY other things that don’t face the same stigma, infuriatingly!!). And if you want to work on reducing it, while building or reinforcing great love, kindness and acceptance for your amazing self and miraculous body at any size, I’d like to help if we’re a good fit. Thanks for reading and I hope to see you!

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